mother. Hurting the feelings of the father, answering him back and talking to him whilst meeting his eyes rudely are all Ḥarām acts as well as disobedience to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ. It is not permissible at all for offspring to support either their mother or father in this way. Both of them are his Heaven and Hell. If he upsets anyone of them, he will deserve Hell, وَالۡعِيَاذُ بِاللّٰه (We seek refuge of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ). Also note that no one can be obeyed by disobeying Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ.
For example, if a mother wants her son to displease his father but he does not do so, i.e. he refuses to displease his father, and his mother gets displeased with him because of his refusal, then he should let her get displeased and should not listen to her at all in this matter. The same ruling will apply if his father asks him to displease his mother.
Scholars have elaborated that priority should be given to the mother when it comes to serving [parents], and preference should be given to the father when it comes to respecting them because one’s father has authority and power even over his mother.
(Derived from: Fatāwā Razawiyyaĥ, vol. 24, pp. 390)
It has become evident that we should not obey our parents if they order us to do something contrary to Sharī’aĥ. It is a sin to obey them in impermissible matters. For example, if parents