replied, ‘A right of husband over his wife is that if he has a boil and she licks it clean with her tongue or if blood or pus flows from his nostrils and she swallows it, then she will still not fulfill her duty to him.’ The woman (رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ تَـعَـالٰی عَـنْهَا) responded, ‘I swear by the One Who has sent you with the truth! I will never marry.’ The Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘Do not marry off women until they approve.’ (Majma’-uz-Zawāid, vol. 4, pp. 564, Ḥadīš 7639)
Islamic sisters! These sacred Aḥādīš show that the amazing biographies of the honourable Ṣaḥābiyyāt رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُنَّ teach us that they were extremely eager to acquire the religious knowledge of the matters they confronted. These parables also indicate the Madanī mindset of the Ṣaḥābiyyāt رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُنَّ regarding their duties towards husbands. They always preferred refraining from the disobedience of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and His Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم when making any important decision. They were extremely cautious regarding even the possibility of committing a sin. These blessed Aḥādīš also contain a lesson for married women so that they must never fall short in their duties as wives.
Question: These days a woman is usually incited against her husband by her own family! Please grant us some Madanī pearls about this issue.
Answer: Firstly if an Islamic sister is having problems at her in-laws’ home, then she should be patient and earn reward. If she expresses her anger at her parental house, then this will lead to a chain of major sins such as backbiting, accusations, suspicions, exposure of personal faults etc. and then the woman’s family will make a habit of provoking the wife into reacting negatively, opening the doors of further sins and troubles. The woman’s family should at least think