while thinking to himself, ‘I make mistakes all the time. Today if I treat my wife harshly for her mistake then maybe Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will punish me for my mistakes on Judgement Day.’ So in his heart, he forgave his wife. After his death someone saw him in a dream and asked, ‘What did Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ do with you?’ He replied, ‘I was about to be punished for my many sins but then Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ said to me, ‘My bondwoman put too much salt in your food and you forgave her, go, I forgive you too in exchange for that.’
Allah kī raḥmat say to Jannat ĥī milay gī
Ay kāsh! Maḥallay mayn jagaĥ un kay milī ĥo
By Allah’s mercy I’m sure I’ll get Heaven
But I wish for a place in his neighbourhood
A wife ought to obey her husband and keep him happy. Sayyidatunā Umm-e-Salamaĥ رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ تَـعَـالٰی عَـنْهَا reported this statement of the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, ‘Any woman who dies whilst her husband is pleased with her shall enter Paradise.’
(Sunan-ut-Tirmiżī, vol. 2, pp. 386, Ḥadīš 1164)
A wife should not turn her husband into her ‘slave’, demanding him to do everything she wants at any cost. In fact, it has been commanded to her that she must also fulfill her duties towards him, she should fulfil his permissible wishes and avoid disobeying him. Sayyidunā Qays Bin Sa’d رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ reported this grand statement of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, ‘If I were to command anyone to prostrate to someone other than Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ, I would command a wife to prostrate to her husband.’
(Sunan Ibn Mājaĥ, vol. 2, pp. 411, Ḥadīš 1853)