Sayyidunā Makḥūl Damishqī عَـلَيْهِ رَحْـمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ الۡـقَـوِی said, ‘If you see someone crying, then cry with him, do not suspect him of showing off. Once I saw someone who was crying and I suspected him of ostentation. As a punishment I was deprived of crying (out of fear of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and love for the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم) for one year.’ (Tanbīĥ-ul-Mughtarīn, pp. 107)
Question: Can a woman give Ghusl [i.e. post-death bath] to the body of her deceased husband or not?
Answer: Ṣadr-ush-Sharī’aĥ, Badr-uṭ-Ṭarīqaĥ, ‘Allāmaĥ Maulānā Muftī Muhammad Amjad ‘Alī A’ẓamī عَـلَيْهِ رَحْـمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ الۡـقَـوِی said, ‘A woman can give Ghusl to her deceased husband, provided no marriage-terminating act takes place before or after his death.’
(Baĥār-e-Sharī’at, vol. 1, pp. 812)
Question: Can a man give Ghusl to his deceased wife or not?
Answer: No he cannot. The honourable scholars said, ‘If a woman dies, her husband is not allowed to give Ghusl to her body; nor can he touch her. However, he can look at her.’
(Ibid, pp. 813; Durr-e-Mukhtār, vol. 3, pp. 105)
Question: Can a man not even look at his deceased wife’s face?
Answer: He can look at her face. Baĥār-e-Sharī’at states, ‘A common misconception amongst common people is that a man can neither shoulder his wife’s bier nor can he lower her into her grave and nor