The Revered and Renowned Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم stated, ‘The good men amongst you are those who are good to their wives.’
(Sunan Ibn Mājaĥ, vol. 2, pp. 478, Ḥadīš 1978)
A man should constantly advise his wife to do good deeds and teach her essential knowledge, he should take care of her food and drink. If he ever dislikes anything she does, he should be patient, if he reacts harshly, he might make her stubborn and make matters worse.
1. Woman has been created from a rib, she can never be straight for you, if you want to live with her then live with her as she is, if you try to straighten her you will break her, and breaking is divorce. (Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim, pp. 775, Ḥadīš 1468)
A Muslim man must not bear malice (i.e. hatred and enmity) with his Muslim wife, if he does not like any of her habits, then he will like another. (Ibid, Ḥadīš 1469)
This means that if he dislikes one or two traits of his wife then there must surely be a few that he likes, therefore, he should focus on the good ones and continue to endeavour to appropriately remove the disliked ones.
Here is a faith-refreshing story about a fortunate husband who was patient when his wife did something that annoyed him. Read and rejoice. This story is extracted from page 164, part 2, of the 472-page book ‘Bayānāt-e-‘Aṭṭāriyyaĥ’ published by Dawat-e-Islami’s publication department Maktaba-tul-Madīnaĥ: A man’s wife put too much salt in his food. He was very angry but controlled his anger