chance of saving them from such unreal love. Children should be taught to love Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and His Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم from a very young age. If anyone truly loves the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, then he will be safe from unreal love, اِنْ شَــآءَالـلّٰـه عَزَّوَجَلَّ.
Maḥabbat ghayr kī dil say nikālo Yā Rasūlallāĥ
Mujĥay apnā ĥī dīwānaĥ banā lo Yā Rasūlallāĥ
Remove the love of everyone else from my heart, O Prophet of Allah
Make me a devotee of yours, O Prophet of Allah
Question: At what age should someone get married?
Answer: Parents should have the Nikah of their children done as soon as they reach puberty. Here are two sayings of Beloved Mustafa صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم regarding this:
1. Whoever has a son should choose a good name for him, teach him good manners and marry him when he reaches puberty. If he is not married at puberty and commits a sin, then his father is responsible for the sin.
(Shu’ab-ul-Īmān lil-Bayĥaqī, vol. 6, pp. 401, Ḥadīš 8666)
The famous commentator, Ḥakīm-ul-Ummat, Muftī Aḥmad Yār Khān عَـلَيْهِ رَحْـمَةُ الْـمَنَّان commented on these words in this Ḥadīš ‘his father is responsible for the sin’: This is when the son is poor and cannot marry himself. If his father is rich and can marry his son but does not do due to negligence or because he is in search of a rich wife for his son, then the negligent father is to blame for his son’s sin. (Mirāt, vol. 5, pp. 30)